This isn’t about Brian and I, so don’t worry. Ok, well maybe a little about us, but not about us being horrible roommates. Actually, we’re hoping to finally BE roomates again! This is about room sharing for Cade and his little brother/sister.
Long story short, after multiple houses and townhouses Brian and I found a two bedroom townhouse that we both really like. It was actually one of the first we saw, and I LOVED it-until I found out it was only two bedrooms. Eek! After seeing how much space was wasted in the 3 bedroom designs, however, we realized the two bedroom would actually give us much more usable room. It took much debate and figuring and design doodling and number crunching before we finally settled on the two bedroom and I’m really excited, it is such a nice townhouse! But. I’m also a bit nervous.
One thing I know for sure, I am NOT sharing a room with Cade anymore. I love my little man to pieces but he is a flipping NOISY sleeper. He moans and groans and giggles and flops and kicks and sighs and snores and wakes me up everytime he does. He’s been consistently sleeping through the night for a few months with the occassional bad night once every 1-2 weeks, but I have NOT been able to consistently sleep through the night. I can’t wait to finally share a room with my husband again (who is currently downstairs on a couch 😦 ) instead of my son! If Brian snores I don’t feel bad about elbowing him in the kidneys…
Now, I know room sharing can be done. Early on my older sister, brother, and I were all in the same room. Then me and my two sisters briefly shared, me and just my older sister while my younger shared with my brother, then me and my younger sister while my older sister shared with my brother….I didn’t have my own room until somewhere around 14 years old. And I survived and it really wasn’t that terrible. I enjoyed having my own room (my little sister can rival my dad in snoring, and he has sleep apnea) but I also really enjoyed sharing a room with my sister.
Knowing it can be done and implementing it with your own children, however, is a different kettle of fish. Especially since Cade won’t quite be a year and a half when the newbie arrives on the scene. SO, this is our plan, currently (subject to change at any moment because children don’t like following plans that would make life easier). In the children’s room is a walk in closet that may possibly be as big as my room at my parent’s house. A little smaller, but not by much. We could fit two cribs in there without an issue, and the space is nice and square so it really looks like a small room instead of a closet-except it doesn’t have a window. At first we were planning on putting Baby 2.0 in there, but after a lot of consideration we realized I am most likely going to be going to get the baby multiple times at night, whereas Cade is pretty good at sleeping soundly. Makes more sense to not have to walk by Cade’s bed every so many hours to pick up a fussing infant. Also, we bought a daybed because I need something to sleep on when I’m co-sleeping with the baby (which I plan on doing because I plan on nursing) because Brian sleeps like a rock and I’m not comfortable trying to co-sleep with him in the bed as well. The daybed comes with a trundle. Cade’s first bed is going to be, you guessed it, the trundle bed. If we put the trundle bed in the closet when Cade leaves the crib we won’t have to worry about him climbing all over the room and furniture and toys, etc. He’ll have a few toys and his stuffed animals, but we’ll be able to keep my little accident prone explorer somewhat contained. The daybed will go in the room and I’ll use it to cosleep with the baby for the first three months or so until Cade is completely transitioned over to the trundle and the baby can start being transitioned to the crib. We may leave the day bed in the room (in case the baby or Cade has a bad night and needs some snuggles) or not, but for right now that’s the plan.
Now, to make matters even better about this room sharing business, the room layout is as follows. You walk into the room and it’s deepest (if that makes sense) to your left. So you turn left, and a little hallway opens up on your left in the room. The first door on your left is the closet, the door at the end of the little hallway opens up to a bathroom. If I put the baby’s crib on the RIGHT side of the room and then Cade in the closet with the door shut, it’ll be as sound proof as if they were in two seperate rooms. As far as room sharing goes, it’s almost like they’re not. 🙂
We are projected to leave the area around when Cade is three and baby 2.0 is one and a half-both toddlers. By then we may have both of them in the actual room and store stuff in the closet, but in the meantime, I really think this room sharing can work.
- If we start roomsharing now, we won’t have to fight a “now you’re going to share a room with your brother/sister” battle later.
- We can keep roomsharing wherever Brian gets stationed next and possibly longer (depending on the gender of 2.0)
- Roomsharing not only saves us a substantial bit of moolah, but if we DO get a three bedroom in the not so distant future, we’ll actually be able to use on bedroom for an office/library type deal.
- Some claim roomsharing helps strengthen the sibling bond. Personally, I think a lot of that has to do with personality of the children AND with how the parents manage the room sharing. Having seperate “unshared” space for both children is crucial otherwise one (in my sister’s case, Me) usually ends up with their stuff EVERYWHERE. I think this is true for marriage, too. Not that Brian and I have “Keep Out” signs on stuff, haha, but rather he has a desk and I have a desk. He has a laptop and I have a laptop. We share most things (we don’t ask permission to sit at each other’s desks, although eyebrows may be raised at each other haha), but we also have some things we don’t share as much. I try to be conscious about how much space my scrapbooking/puzzling invades, he does the same when he’s staging out his army gear. Anywho, I digress…
- This is a pretty temporary duty station, so if the room sharing ends up to be a complete disaster, we won’t be stuck in this house for 3+ years.
What about Remus, you ask? Remus gets the whole downstairs (steps+wolfhound are NOT a good combination) we’ll hopefully be able to set up his crate again and I’m trying to figure out if I can get a used twin mattress for cheap to use as a bed for him. There is also a sizable covered concrete patio out back, and the yard is fenced-although we share it with our two neighbors so Remus will probably be on his electric fence collar if I let him out without being there with him. Still looking for someplace I can take him and let him run. There isn’t a whole lot of anything to do in Enterprise, but I don’t like letting Remus just wander if I don’t know who owns the property-vacant or not.
I’ve got SO MUCH left to do in preperation for this move and this post has successfully helped me procrastinate from doing it. I big THANK YOU to my parents who watched Cade for two and a half full days and two nights while Brian and I drove down and back to find a place to live! There is no way we could’ve done this without them. That’s all for now!